[Oz-gifted] Oh, dear! Those Older Children!

[Amanda Baynham]

--- Ellen Hrebeniuk <ehrebeniuk at optushome.com.au>
wrote:

> L is in Kindy and, over the last term or so, has
> managed to get 
> involved in playing handball with a group of Year 6
> boys.  > L is quite verbally gifted and sooner or
later will
> ask us what That 
> Word means (we don't swear).  Or something else,
> like rape.  How have 
> other people dealt with such questions? 
> Furthermore, do parents of 
> gifted children find themselves talking about sex to
> the kids earlier?


our son also did the *handball/football/soccer
witholder boys* thing... which we allowed but i set
the rules of *no playing with kids who bully* and *no
tackle football*....but the older boys were really
good with him and whilst treting himlike an age peer
made sure he was safe at all times..

as far as swearing goes we allow the swearing..{ steps
back and waits for the shock}... i figure if i BAN the
word then it will make it more attractive... i have 2
younger girls who are easily influenced by their older
brother as well.... BUT for each swear word that comes
into the house we talk about what it MEANS... and then
ask if the word is appropriate for the situation (ie:
if he bans his finger is F*** the right word).... and
help him find some other words that make him feel
better and express himself...

the only words in my house that WILL get a reaction (
a HUGE reaction) is stupid and idiot ..... becuase
these are words that are designed to HURT people by
being mean and attacking someone personally... 

the oldest 2 tend to not swear at home or out ( the 3
year old however LOVES the F word lol-funnily enough
she only does it at home)
amanda


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